Making a man fall in love with you isn’t an exact science. It also doesn’t involve a foolproof formula. But following certain steps can increase your odds dramatically.
If you were to ask ten different women how to make him fall in love, you just might get ten different answers. Some women will tell you to give a man exactly what he wants. Others will claim the best way is to play hard to get.
Some might even answer, matter-of-factly, that the best way to make a man fall is to trip him. What works for one woman might not work for another because of one simple reason: not all men are the same.
Still, learning how to make him fall in love with you can be broken down into steps, steps that work for most men or maybe even all.
Step 1: Realize Not All Men Will Fall for You
Just like there are men you will never fall for, there are some men who will never fall for you no matter what you do.
Remember that this is okay: if everyone fell for everyone, the world would be one giant orgy and syphilis would be the leading cause of death. Some personalities simply don’t mesh – it’s as simple as that.
That’s why we search for “the one” instead of “the several.”
Step 2: Hook Him
Men are visual creatures: the billion dollars the porn industry makes every years isn’t because women are logging on late at night. Hooking a man via your sexuality may seem a little degrading, but it’s what works.
Men care about attraction, probably more than women, and they notice how you look before anything else.
So, put your best foot forward. This isn’t to say you need to wear tight clothes and a shirt that reads “Slut,” but dress up, look feminine, and don’t be afraid to smoke ‘em if you got ‘em.
Step 3: Play Your Cards Close
Playing your cards close can sometimes be tricky advice; it gets dangerously close to the “playing games” category.
Still, playing your cards far from your hand – telling a guy right off the bat that you’re into him – can have the opposite effect you were hoping.
You may say “I know we just met, but I could totally see myself marrying you,” but what he hears is “I’m threatening your independence and looking to take you away from your friends, your interests, and your career.”
So, instead of bringing an engagement ring brochure to your second date, be a little hard to get.
Men are much more attracted to a challenge than a sure thing – a challenge tells him that you’re worth fighting for.
Step 4: Recognize The Differences Between Men and Women
To say that men and women are different should be met with a deserved “Duh” – you don’t get much more different than male versus female.
Men and women have different insights, different emotions, and different ways of dealing with things.
As you try to learn how to make him fall for you, it’s important to remember this.
Just because you like to talk out issues, doesn’t mean he does.
Just because you don’t need down time, doesn’t mean he doesn’t.
Just because you’re a great communicator, doesn’t mean he is.
Recognizing that there are differences, and not trying to change those differences, will endear you to a man, rather than repel you.
Step 5: Let Him Know He’s Important
Men, even when they’re humble, are generally ego driven. They enjoy seeing themselves as the rescuer, the fixer, the man who dons a cape and rushes towards the damsel in distress.
Men like to play the role of knight in shining armor – sometimes, the best way to let him know you care is to let him play this role.
That isn’t to say that you need to suddenly forget how to do math or pretend you can’t open a pickle jar, but ask him for his opinion, his thoughts on things and his suggestions.
If you make him feel important, you’ll become important to him as well.