Learn How to Act in a New Relationship
So after taking a break from your last relationship you find yourself ready to start another one. How can you avoid the mistakes you made the last time around? How do you know how to act in a new relationship?
We all make mistakes and just because you may have blown it the last time around doesn’t mean you’ll blow it again this time. This kind of negative thinking only complicates things and can really throw a wrench into your relationship before it even gets off the ground.
The truth is, there are just three things you need to do to keep your relationship from running aground. Here’s how to act in your new relationship to avoid the problems left over from your last breakup.
Without clearly defined goals, no one can have a successful relationship. You can even use the mistakes you made last time as a blueprint for the goals you set with your new relationship.
Goals can be anything, from “I want to get married” to “I want to have fun”. The goal you set isn’t as important as setting them–goals mean that you are in your current relationship for more than just sex or status.
When it comes time to set goals for yourself and your new relationship, remember to be realistic. If you’re a teenager, don’t set the goal of having a serious, long-term relationship that ends in marriage. Instead, tell yourself that your goal is to avoid mistakes you’ve made in the past and try to establish you and your partner as people who are mature enough for a relationship.
Learn to Compromise
The only way a relationship succeeds is if both partners can learn to give a little and take a little at the same time. Being willing to make sacrifices or changes in yourself in order to maintain happiness in your relationship is a sign of maturity, and the ability to compromise is so crucial for marriage, learning it now before you’re married is key to being successful in love in the future.
But both partners need to compromise for this plan to work. If one partner is doing all the compromising, that’s a bad situation. Compromising means that both people in a relationship give something up–it does not mean that neither partner is happy. Ideally, both of you will be happy with your compromises and over time it won’t even feel like you’re compromising at all.
When you mess up, admit it. This is the most basic way of taking responsibility for your actions. Saying “I was wrong” or “I’m sorry” takes guts, and displaying your sorrow and your desire for forgiveness is one of the most mature aspects of an adult relationship.
Everyone blows it from time to time–what matters most is how well the two of you come through this conflict. If both partners are willing to compromise, and if both partners are willing to take responsibility when they screw up, then a relationship is more likely to survive.
We’ve all had bad breakups in the past, and we all want to have success in love in the future. Learning how to act in a new relationship is just a matter of correcting mistakes from the past and being willing to change in the future. To have an adult relationship, you need to be willing to admit fault, willing to give a little on your demands, and willing to move on when mistakes have been made.